in the entire world that isn't on Facebook? I've held out for some time now, stood my ground, refused to join the revolution of curiosity masked as communication and reconnection. Have I become a techno dinosaur? Am I losing out on something vastly important? Will I be left out? Will people from college forget me? If they haven't already?
I halted initially because everyone else was doing it. I often hesitate from doing things everyone else does, so to appear original, cool, you know "my own person." I continued to halt when I became aware of my ability to blog stalk and to waste oodles of time peering into others lives when I should be cleaning my bathrooms or vacuuming i.e. now. I halt still for the very reason I stated above, it (being Facebook) can be become a potentially disingenuous, look at my fascinating update, I still maybe want to be popular... am I wrong? I could be wrong.
Would I like to see what my ex-boyfriends kids look like? Yes. Would I like to see who from highschool has come out of the closet? Yes. Would I find pleasure in seeing how many invites to be a friend I could garner? Yes. Would I spend way to much time doing all that when I could spend my time being productive elsewhere? Yes.
I understand some use it for the purpose that perhaps it was created for (who really knows what it was created for?) and that is to truly reconnect and stay in touch. There are without question some: my girlies in the Lou, old friends from Israel, to name a few, that would be easier to keep track of via Facebook. But can't I do that with an email here and there? With a little more effort? Seriously, did you ever think the day would come that sending out an email would be categorized as 'more effort'? Lame! Listen to me, I sound like my father. (My father, not my mother. She's on Facebook AND popular)
So feel free to comment, to disagree, to agree, to tell me I'm ridiculous. I'll read and listen and consider. But for now, I'll stick to my blogging, letter writing, email sending and peering over Wade's shoulder when he's perusing his FB page.
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you caught me on a day... a day when yes, much too much time has been wasted online, facebook included. for me it's all curiosity. I agree that if you really want to keep in touch with someone, you will. it's fun to see pics of old friends, but are they really "friends?" superficial acquaintences more like. anyway, I can say that i like checking in now and then but need to monitor my time better. there. I'm no help at all.
you're never going to be popular if you arent on facebook. bummer.
I'm with Lindsay, no popularity for you. jokes jokes...
Facebook has it's ups and downs. It can be rather annoying sometimes, but it's nice to go on there and see family members pictures, or say hi to someone really quickly when you see they're online too. I guess it all depends on taste. If you ever do decide to be on Facebook, I'll be there to be your 'friend.' :)
yes, you probably are the only one not on facebook. But be strong, hold your ground! I unfortunately am on facebook, I rarely check and to be quite honest I dont understand it. I mean I really dont give a crap that someone is making PB&J's or is mopping their kitchen. I was really taken off guard when I got "poked" for the first time I mean really how is one supposed to react to being "poked" online shouldn't that be private?? What does that even mean to poke someone other than the way well enough said. During Christmas someone put an ornament on my xmas tree...now I have a FB xmas tree??? I dont get it but sadly I am a member. Actually as I write this I am thinking about closing my FB account. I dont suppose I would be missed because I never really use.
Stand strong
Jeremy
I'm with you. Maybe it's because I'm just stubborn and don't want to do something that everyone else is doing too. I know it would be a great way to reconnect with people I have lost track of but, like you said, if I really wanted to keep track of them I would have. Or if I really wanted to reconnect I would get back in touch with them on my own. The whole concept seems sort of fake to me because you end up being "friends" with and checking up on people who you barely know from years ago and facebook becomes your only contact with these people. There's a reason you're not really friends any more. Let it go. I am curious about people I used to know and for that reason alone I am tempted to sign up sometimes...but I'm just not that curious.
Hold out Woozer. You have been popular for years and you don't need facebook to be so. I never check it unless I get an email that says I have a message. Spend your precious time kissing and loving Tessa-bug! Clean house if you really want to. I say, "Email forever"!
yep you will probably be the last. I got on FB to keep in touch w/ the YW, then to reconnect with many long lost friends. Honestly, I have fun with it - some days more, some days less. It's helped my sister and I stay more connected and I hear from more friends more often (not just the once a year Christmas card letter. - Popularity, well I guess that just depends on your security. I have quite a few friends but I don't believe that says anything about my popularity but a lot about how many freakin places I've lived.
As long as it's your decision, do what catches your fancy.
You can e-mail through facebook, so it is technically more convenient, One stop shop! But you do need to be a friend with intended recipient.
im on facebook...so is my mom. and yes, my mom has more friends than i do. it is slightly like jr. high...people asking to be your friend. it is quite a self esteem boost..or not. whichever way you look at it! all i have to say is, if you DO do facebook, you better not stop blogging like lots of other people i know.
I finally gave in this month! I wanted to find a past friend and I did. It has been really worthwhile, but I think you have to be really careful with it, I could see it being a negative thing. Once I found the friend I haven't checked it since. Good luck on the decision.
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